Today, I am inspired to speak to you about how you can actually own your life and be free from the encumbrances of trying to be what others want you to be. One of the greatest undoing of our generation is people who want you to be what they figure you should be.
They look at you, size you up and come up with a verdict that you cannot go beyond certain limits. That is a lie from the pit of hell. For many people who respect those who pass such verdicts on them and they have not attained a measure of independent thinking and living yet; this piece is for you. If you are afraid to break free from the bounds of such blockade that keeps you tied to the apron strings of people who think they own your life for you, you must pay attention here.
You are the ultimate decider of what happens in your life
At birth, between infancy and when we attain the age of accountability, decisions are made for us by our parents, guardians, school teachers and tutors. By the time we cross the threshold of 18 years and above, our decision really should count. In sub-Saharan Africa, you find a 40 year old man still hovering around his father's house waiting to be told what to do! That is madness with a new coloration to it. When are you going to be the driver in your destiny?
Many times, we tend to confuse respect with responsibility. I will respect you but I will not allow your opinion to overrule my destination - that is my personal responsibility. You may make suggestions and I will listen to counsel but the ultimate decision is mine!
Many destinies have been ruined by people who left decision making of crucial issues in their lives to people they claim to respect. It happens all the time; someone has to tell you what profession to go into, what course to read in school and who to marry - without taking your own personal uniqueness into consideration. I believe an individual must be taught sound principles and be left to apply those principles in his life as he or she deems fit based on such person's individual uniqueness and personal drive in life.
In the next couple of days, I will take some time out to examine some critical areas of an individual's life that destiny decisions are critical and how it should not be left at the hands of others no matter how much you respect them. I shall also be sharing some personal experiences and how I eventually broke lose from such malady and now own my life with God as my ultimate guide.
Keep a date with me.