In this world, I have noticed and observed with keen interest that it is the issue that produces the most excitement that can give you the most trouble.
There is no area of life that this allusion is truer than in matters of intimate relationships, romance and marriages. You find someone, you fall head over heel in love with him or her; two of you enjoy the best of times and the excitement overrules all sense of sane and logical judgment and bam! You snap into reality with shattered hearts, dreams and aspirations.
What is it in that partner that blinded you to all the issues to discover later that now makes it practically impossible for you to even want to set your eyes on that person not to talk about even engaging in any kind of a chat with him or her?
But the two people were in love! Are they now in hate?! Sounds funny but its not because virtually everyone reading this has suffered one form of heartbreak or the other.
LET'S FACE IT!
We are the cause of our many troubles. As human beings, we have been wired with the right body mechanisms to decipher between fake and true. But the other trouble is that we as individuals are not true to ourselves. In our bid to sidestep the right process, we run into trouble as well.
Why on earth should anyone ever date a lady or a guy before finding out who they are? We are so enamored with the beautiful face, nice hair-cut, the right curves in all the vital areas, his tall self and broad smile and her busty self. These are good features that naturally sends strong shivers down the spine of anybody with blood running in the veins but they are never enough reasons to take a plunge. Knowing the person behind the mask is critical.
We are great actors when it comes to intimate matters. We want to really impress the other person especially if we are taken by their outlook. The results are always disastrous because while the guy is trying to impress the lady, the reverse is happening also.
When the two unfortunately ends up exploring their physical bodies and there is nothing more to impress each other with, the real persons inside comes to the fore and all of a sudden the scales of love falls off our eyes and we are now saddled with the real person who we can't stand and trouble sets in!
After one bad experience, you expect the wounded persons to learn and in that state, without assessing the damages from the previous relationship, they send out need signals around and another masked fellow appears only for the same circle of experience to be repeated until that person becomes an emotional wretch, numb to feelings of love because of repeated heartbreaks. God Have Mercy!
Your heart feels love but your head thinks through the object of that love. Your heart desires the company but your head probes for landmines. Let your heart and your head work in agreement and your emotional life will be better served with that balance.
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