Our subject matter is very straight-forward. It is the problem of dangerous immoral behavior with specific reference to pre-marital and illicit sex. What really is pre-marital sex? It is the art of engaging in sexual activity before marriage. It is an agreed issue that the world over, young people in their millions are becoming sexually active today than ever before. It is almost becoming an accepted norm in society that there is no wrong in being sexually active before marriage. That is the deceit that society in the name of human rights and freedom presents to us.
There is actually no regulation or law that prohibits premarital sex. That is a fact. There is however a law in many countries that teenagers or children should be spared sexual activities by adults especially if they are below 18. That is called by a mild name of child-abuse. But we have in many unreported cases of teenagers who engage in sex before 18 with no serious outcry by those charged with the responsibility of overseeing these young people. A recent case is the scandal rocking the premiership of Italy where Mr. Bulisconni is faced with the case of having sex with an “un-aged prostitute”. Does the law recognize un-aged prostitution? Why is no one talking about the case of this below 18 year-old prostitute and the attention appears to be more on the Prime Minister? Whatever it is, it appear the Italian society accepts the fact that the girl in question even though under-aged is free to be a prostitute but its an offence to sleep with her especially if you are a prime minister… a huge paradox here.
Statistics revealed over the years that in most developing countries, unwanted pregnancies occur more among teenagers than in any other age category. We have a large percentage of teenage girls being put in the family way by equally teenage boys. These are very disturbing issues.
Our institutions of higher education are more like dens of unrestricted sexual activities. The art has been so perfected that with condom use, young men and women can have themselves without the fear of pregnancy and STIs. It is even so shameful that these youths have thrown caution to the wind as the acts are performed in some cases at wild parties and street corners. That is how sex has been devalued today. The age-long moral values that societies in Africa and the world over were known for are now almost forgotten.
Girls and young men who lay claim to virginity today are classified as not being trendy or out of date. It is very easy to hear young men today insisting they would not marry a virgin girl because they had no “experience”. Where have all these led us? Our world is at a precipice. We are on edge and it is very obvious.
Pre-marital sex devalues a person
The sex act is ideally meant to be an activity for the married alone. It is the uniting force that consummates a legitimately married couple and it is meant to be engaged in without guilt and shame on the part of the two who have committed themselves to each other for a lifetime. It is the bond that should be kept only between the two.
When a person, therefore, practices what was originally meant for the marriage bed outside of it, the practitioners are not just abusing nature but devaluing themselves. The average person who engages in sex before marriage is almost likely to be unfaithful to his or her spouse when married. The anti-social and anti-moral idea of having to be with multiple partners over time will be difficult to replace with being faithful to one partner. A situation is created where the entire life of such a person becomes distorted because sex has such a power to destroy a man or woman so fast when misused. There are young people today who see sex as ordinary as picking a fruit off the shelf and eating.
Pre-marital sex destroys the big picture of life & relationships
We humans are relational beings. We want to be loved and want to love others. The idea of a true relationship between a male and female is for them to cross pollinate ideas, intellectual capacities, complement each other and synergize for productivity either in academic matters, work place activities and general life issues. When two people of the opposite sex are not married and are friendly on the platonic levels without intimate sexual activity, they produce more results in whatever they are engaged in than otherwise. Once they know themselves sexually, they lose respect for themselves and begin to focus more on the romantic connection than their big picture purpose. They begin to look out for faults, and doubt each other in ordinary associations with other persons of opposite sex because of jealousy. Before long, the once fledging relationship that was adding great value deteriorates into a fight for the ownership of the intimate parts of each other’s lives. Such is the danger of unmarried sex.
The Danger of STDs & HIV/AIDS
Many people today appear to have forgotten that the best bet against STDs and HIV/AIDS is not condom use but total abstinence. With all the condom use campaign, the cases of STDs and HIV/AIDS are still on the increase amongst the people group with multiple sex partners.
STDs and HIV/AIDS are life short-changing diseases. They are prevalent amongst people who indulge in premarital sex when they use “protected” means or not. Since this people group is the most potentially productive group in society, a nation loses greatly with this group going down with drain when they are infected by life threatening diseases.
For the individual, personal potentials and dreams are cut short and aspirations are destroyed because the body with which the dreams should be anchored upon is too weak to work on any vision.
Do you have a dream for your life? Do you have a vision of your life tomorrow? Where is your destination in life? Do you know why you are here on earth? It’s time to zip up and get your life in proper perspective.
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