In this season, this is the last blog I am writing on this hyped subject of marriage and divorce. Someone asked me why I decided to do this since the subject is very unpopular and discussing it can be controversial. My answer is this: someone has to discuss what everyone does not want to talk about. The Bible did not shy away from discussing it and making it plain, why should we run away from it? The trouble with us is that we want to be acceptable, popular and seen from a perceived correct position, but the truth is this: my job is not to be popular but to be truthful and be purposeful to the point that I am able to help someone. If this series has helped anyone, then I am satisfied even if I am crucified.
As I end this series, I also want to leave it on the mind of my readers that your life is not over because you are divorced. The problem is not with divorce, it is with a faulty marriage from day one. If only we can pay attention to details, follow God's plan and marry aright, divorce would not be an issue. Divorce is a symptom of a greater problem called faulty foundation in marriage. That is the reason why I want to devote the next couple of days talking about how to marry aright.
You might wonder why I didn't start with that... I start with the end in mind. I have told you the consequences of marrying on faulty foundations, now we will discuss how to marry aright. But if you have fallen by the way side, it is time to get back up and get your life back on track. That you were married and divorce is not the end of your life. Do not mind those who tell you that your life is finished because you failed in marriage. Failure is a relative expression. You fail when you give up trying, but you are not a failure if you have to start again. It annoys me that today, especially in the Church, when a saint falls, we shoot him dead, while in the world, when anyone falls, they come together to get the person back up. In the battlefield, when a soldier falls, his colleagues gather around to help resuscitate him. That is the ideal for the Church but we rather kill the fallen warrior instead of helping him back up. I am encouraging all those who have experienced heart break in marriages and it led to a divorce that there is a second chance for you. The Bible presents clear testimonies of second chances. Even God had to start again in Genesis 6 after He destroyed the first world and left Noah and his family in the world to continue the race. If God could start again, you can start again.
In contemporary world, we have men and women who have had to start all over again after their first attempt at matrimony failed and they are doing well. Someone told me that a particular preacher who got divorced is not born again because she did! Well, I smiled and walked away because that was a very ignorant statement to make. Some of you reading this may be shocked to know that some of the famous preachers making huge impact have been divorced and remarriaged. Please note that I am not advocating and promoting divorce as a concept but I am only educating your pure mind to be clear about the vexed issue of Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage.
Let me share with you a few of them for the avoidance of doubt:
1. Jim Baker, his marriage to Tammy Faye ended in 1992, he remarried.
2. John Hagee, Pastor of the Cornerstone Church in San Antonio: his first marriage ended in 1972. He
remarried the next year.
3. Bishop Noel Jones. His marriage ended in the early 1990s. He is the Bishop of the City of Refuge
Church in Gadena, California. He is single.
4. Clarence McCledon, his marriage of 16 years ended in 2000. He is remarried.
5. Joyce Meyer, divorced first husband in 1966, remarried in 1967.
6. Robert A. Schuller, divorced in 1984, remarried the same year.
7. Charles Stanley, marriage ended in 2000 after 44 years, he is single.
8. Robert Tilton, twice divorced, remarried.
9. Paula White, married to Bishop Randy White ended in 2007, single.
10. Prophetess Juanita Bynum, marriage to Bishop Weeks III ended 2007, single.
I must also sound a note of warning that these facts are not presented to help you validate your desire to break a marriage if you can mend it, but it is a testimony to the fact that marriages do break up even with Christians and they can have their life back and it can still count.
I am done on this subject and hope it has been a source of help to many. Lets talk about another subject. Thanks for reading.
As I end this series, I also want to leave it on the mind of my readers that your life is not over because you are divorced. The problem is not with divorce, it is with a faulty marriage from day one. If only we can pay attention to details, follow God's plan and marry aright, divorce would not be an issue. Divorce is a symptom of a greater problem called faulty foundation in marriage. That is the reason why I want to devote the next couple of days talking about how to marry aright.
You might wonder why I didn't start with that... I start with the end in mind. I have told you the consequences of marrying on faulty foundations, now we will discuss how to marry aright. But if you have fallen by the way side, it is time to get back up and get your life back on track. That you were married and divorce is not the end of your life. Do not mind those who tell you that your life is finished because you failed in marriage. Failure is a relative expression. You fail when you give up trying, but you are not a failure if you have to start again. It annoys me that today, especially in the Church, when a saint falls, we shoot him dead, while in the world, when anyone falls, they come together to get the person back up. In the battlefield, when a soldier falls, his colleagues gather around to help resuscitate him. That is the ideal for the Church but we rather kill the fallen warrior instead of helping him back up. I am encouraging all those who have experienced heart break in marriages and it led to a divorce that there is a second chance for you. The Bible presents clear testimonies of second chances. Even God had to start again in Genesis 6 after He destroyed the first world and left Noah and his family in the world to continue the race. If God could start again, you can start again.
In contemporary world, we have men and women who have had to start all over again after their first attempt at matrimony failed and they are doing well. Someone told me that a particular preacher who got divorced is not born again because she did! Well, I smiled and walked away because that was a very ignorant statement to make. Some of you reading this may be shocked to know that some of the famous preachers making huge impact have been divorced and remarriaged. Please note that I am not advocating and promoting divorce as a concept but I am only educating your pure mind to be clear about the vexed issue of Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage.
Let me share with you a few of them for the avoidance of doubt:
1. Jim Baker, his marriage to Tammy Faye ended in 1992, he remarried.
2. John Hagee, Pastor of the Cornerstone Church in San Antonio: his first marriage ended in 1972. He
remarried the next year.
3. Bishop Noel Jones. His marriage ended in the early 1990s. He is the Bishop of the City of Refuge
Church in Gadena, California. He is single.
4. Clarence McCledon, his marriage of 16 years ended in 2000. He is remarried.
5. Joyce Meyer, divorced first husband in 1966, remarried in 1967.
6. Robert A. Schuller, divorced in 1984, remarried the same year.
7. Charles Stanley, marriage ended in 2000 after 44 years, he is single.
8. Robert Tilton, twice divorced, remarried.
9. Paula White, married to Bishop Randy White ended in 2007, single.
10. Prophetess Juanita Bynum, marriage to Bishop Weeks III ended 2007, single.
I must also sound a note of warning that these facts are not presented to help you validate your desire to break a marriage if you can mend it, but it is a testimony to the fact that marriages do break up even with Christians and they can have their life back and it can still count.
I am done on this subject and hope it has been a source of help to many. Lets talk about another subject. Thanks for reading.
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