I posted a question on my facebook page yesterday on what is the right age for ladies to marry; I got many responses and all of them tend to have different answers. As a matter of fact, no two answers were the same. That sent me a clear message - we are all different people with different wiring and wanting different things. My discourse on this particular subject today is not on the right age for marriage either for guys and ladies but on the matter of why one desires to get married in the first place.
Is marriage mandatory?
The answer up-front is no. I know some of my religious folks would already be bending over to pick up stones directed at me... hold on a moment! I know God says its not good for man to be alone. So, he created Eve to be a help meet for the man. A companion, a friend and a love mate. That is correct. However, when God sent His Son Jesus Christ to planet earth, marriage was not on the table for the Saviour of mankind. Why? The work on hand was too serious to be meddled with "civilian" affairs which includes marriage. As far as God was concerned, the purpose for which Christ was sent had no built-in plan for him to be married. Marriage was going to be a "distraction" for Christ.
There was no record on the marriage life of the Apostle Paul. So we can safely say he was too busy being a doctor of the Pharisaical law and later as Christ's Apostle to the Gentiles that marriage was going to be a distraction for him. Can you imagine someone claiming to be Paul's wife? She would be the loneliest woman on the earth because the bob would have no time for her!
From these two examples, my religious folks should be satisfied that marriage cannot be for everybody. Having said that, Paul himself said in one of his Epistles to the Corinthians that "in order to avoid fornication, the man should have his own wife and the woman should have her own husband". Justifying this further, he said, "it is better to marry than to burn". Great. Marriage serves the right and godly purpose for the expression of pure animal love. But we must bear in mind that if we marry only for the purpose of meeting biological needs, we would have hit the wrong target. The purpose of marriage should be higher than sex which is only about 20% or less of the marriage life.
My young man and lady, have you decided why you want to marry besides sex? It is wrong to be sexually active outside marriage but you and I know that anybody can have sex. Mad people do too! If you marry only on account of sex; the drive will vanish over time and you will be faced with someone you are not in sync with and trouble will confront you. That is laying your future on a faulty foundation.
What should be the right motives and reasons for marriage? We will discuss them in details in the days to come. Keep a date with me. Your life coming forth life gold is my basic objective. Stay connected.
Is marriage mandatory?
The answer up-front is no. I know some of my religious folks would already be bending over to pick up stones directed at me... hold on a moment! I know God says its not good for man to be alone. So, he created Eve to be a help meet for the man. A companion, a friend and a love mate. That is correct. However, when God sent His Son Jesus Christ to planet earth, marriage was not on the table for the Saviour of mankind. Why? The work on hand was too serious to be meddled with "civilian" affairs which includes marriage. As far as God was concerned, the purpose for which Christ was sent had no built-in plan for him to be married. Marriage was going to be a "distraction" for Christ.
There was no record on the marriage life of the Apostle Paul. So we can safely say he was too busy being a doctor of the Pharisaical law and later as Christ's Apostle to the Gentiles that marriage was going to be a distraction for him. Can you imagine someone claiming to be Paul's wife? She would be the loneliest woman on the earth because the bob would have no time for her!
From these two examples, my religious folks should be satisfied that marriage cannot be for everybody. Having said that, Paul himself said in one of his Epistles to the Corinthians that "in order to avoid fornication, the man should have his own wife and the woman should have her own husband". Justifying this further, he said, "it is better to marry than to burn". Great. Marriage serves the right and godly purpose for the expression of pure animal love. But we must bear in mind that if we marry only for the purpose of meeting biological needs, we would have hit the wrong target. The purpose of marriage should be higher than sex which is only about 20% or less of the marriage life.
My young man and lady, have you decided why you want to marry besides sex? It is wrong to be sexually active outside marriage but you and I know that anybody can have sex. Mad people do too! If you marry only on account of sex; the drive will vanish over time and you will be faced with someone you are not in sync with and trouble will confront you. That is laying your future on a faulty foundation.
What should be the right motives and reasons for marriage? We will discuss them in details in the days to come. Keep a date with me. Your life coming forth life gold is my basic objective. Stay connected.
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