I was engaged in a conversation with a friend recently and he was very passionate about how life is supposed to be run by everyone except him. He appeared to have his game all packed as far as life should be lived and everyone except him is getting it all wrong. I looked at him straight in the eyes and I pitied his condition. He reminded me of the rappers who come from the Bronx area of New York whose rap lyrics reflect a world that is full of violence, guns and rough language. As far as they were concern, that was the world and their songs cried for help because “the world has gone mad”. If only the rappers took a trip around Wall Street or went to the Manhattan area before writing their lyrics!
Most of the time in our lives, we make conclusions at situations, people and events only on the basis of our view of life. If only we took the time to investigate the reasons behind the events or the actions of the people we seek to judge, we could arrive at a more reasonable verdict.
I have had occasions where people made statements about certain decisions I took and had to step backward and look at the situation again and wonder if these people were judging correctly. This happens amongst friends, who do not seek to understand what a particular friend and going through before arriving at a verdict. It occurs in churches were ministers make pronouncements about a person without seating down with the individual to understand his or her challenges. It happens in politics where we judge a politician only on the basis of which political party he belongs to and not on the merit of the work he has done.
There are several factors that people consider before arriving at certain decisions especially if they are destiny-driven ones and they are very personal. Why would another person want to judge you for what you consider right for you when that decision has no direct bearing on him? These are so many questions without answers.
Peculiar Priorities
Our priorities are individuals are never the same and can never be the same. Some people arrive at a decision on the basis of what their priorities are at that period in their lives. If you therefore consider such decisions not right for the time just because it does not agree with your world-view of how things should be, then you are over-stepping your bounds and should be asked to stop or shut up!
Different Directions
We are not heading the same direction. I have always advised people to relate on the basis of what they have in common and where there are no common grounds, individual and mutual respect should come to play. When I take a decision based on my defined direction in life and it has no bearing on where you are headed, as friends and buddies, I expect you to respect my individuality and personality and stay clear.
Individual Purpose Wiring
We were put on this planet for different purposes. We are not here to do the same thing. Do not expect me therefore to agree with you all the times because our my unique purpose.
My Background is Unique
You think you know me? Not yet…! Do you know how I came up to the point I am in life before we met as friends? I guess not. Do you know what I have survived and what I have endured? You might have been born into an inheritance while I had to fight my way to the top. We cannot understand things the same way. We may be friends but we must concentrate on our common grounds of shared value and must respect our place of differing understanding. That is the only way we can continue to be friends.
Therefore, Shut Up until your understand me better! I hope this helps a couple of people out there. God bless you.
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