My last blog majored on how you may be able to know who should be your spouse. I ended the discourse by suggesting to those who might not have come to the knowledge of their purpose yet in life to go find out. The truth here is hinged on the fact that you cannot possibly make the right and correct choice if you have not placed your hand on the reason why you are here on earth.
Why is this very important? I have said this before and will say it here again; you have no business looking for a wife if you have no work to do. This is not talking about a practical job but a life-time vocation/work. God gives a wife to you based on the job he has asked you to do. If you marry outside the purpose for which God created you, the relationship may deny you the fulfillment you require in what you were created to do and this can be very frustrating. It's akin to living in hell while on earth.
Whoever becomes your spouse should be one who is in sync with your purpose; motivates you, encourages and fuel your passion and gives you the drive to continue when you feel low. Do not ever marry someone just because you are lonely; you can be married and still be lonely! Don't marry because you are sexually in need; you can be married and be sexually frustrated! Okay, this is becoming interesting. She has great looks, nice lips, great hips and she's got all the right curves in the relevant places. Is her mind in sync with you? Do you have the same view about religion? Are you together on how to handle finance? What is the basic interest that will keep the spark on after the excitement of the honeymoon? If you cannot place your hands on the tangibles in this respect; please don't proceed.
Who you marry is totally your call. It is not your daddy's call, nor your mother's choice. Your friends may give you a head-start but they cannot make your decisions for you in this respect. It is basically your choice and you have to make an informed choice. What books have you read about relationships? Have you carefully observed where you are headed in life and taken at second look at your relationship? If you can bridge the gap that exists right now and what makes you thick in life is not threatened, then you are on track. If you have to make a U-turn on your vision and mission for life because your prospective spouse does not fancy it, then you must watch it.
Marriage is about 40 to 50 years project. Are there things you can live with and things you cannot? Why should a guy slap you because he is angry and you still insist on going on with the relationship because you "love" him? If he started it when you were courting, he will do it a hundred times when you are married. If he did it at all, he can do it again. Your lady calls you a fool just because you guys are having an argument? That is definitely a game-changer! Slip of tongue? Its from the inside - you don't speak what you never thought about. Mutual respect is critical to marriage and if you can't find it in your relationship - your married life might be a frustration at the end of the day.
Things that make for great marriages are noticed and nurtured from the courting stage. If a marriage is going to hit the rocks, the signs are obvious from the beginning.
You enjoy great conversation with your fiance? That's a great sign. The guy looks out for your interests and apologies for mistakes. Treasure that guy! She always want to help you out and is interested in your career and general well-being. That looks like your wife. A husband should be a comfort giver; a wife should inspire confidence and rest/homeliness. True love is concerned about the other person because when there is a giving, there will be a returning of the same which was given out.
I wish I had more time to continue... I hope this gives you a clue as to how to arrive at who should be your wife or husband. I expect your questions and we can discuss them. Godspeed!
Why is this very important? I have said this before and will say it here again; you have no business looking for a wife if you have no work to do. This is not talking about a practical job but a life-time vocation/work. God gives a wife to you based on the job he has asked you to do. If you marry outside the purpose for which God created you, the relationship may deny you the fulfillment you require in what you were created to do and this can be very frustrating. It's akin to living in hell while on earth.
Whoever becomes your spouse should be one who is in sync with your purpose; motivates you, encourages and fuel your passion and gives you the drive to continue when you feel low. Do not ever marry someone just because you are lonely; you can be married and still be lonely! Don't marry because you are sexually in need; you can be married and be sexually frustrated! Okay, this is becoming interesting. She has great looks, nice lips, great hips and she's got all the right curves in the relevant places. Is her mind in sync with you? Do you have the same view about religion? Are you together on how to handle finance? What is the basic interest that will keep the spark on after the excitement of the honeymoon? If you cannot place your hands on the tangibles in this respect; please don't proceed.
Who you marry is totally your call. It is not your daddy's call, nor your mother's choice. Your friends may give you a head-start but they cannot make your decisions for you in this respect. It is basically your choice and you have to make an informed choice. What books have you read about relationships? Have you carefully observed where you are headed in life and taken at second look at your relationship? If you can bridge the gap that exists right now and what makes you thick in life is not threatened, then you are on track. If you have to make a U-turn on your vision and mission for life because your prospective spouse does not fancy it, then you must watch it.
Marriage is about 40 to 50 years project. Are there things you can live with and things you cannot? Why should a guy slap you because he is angry and you still insist on going on with the relationship because you "love" him? If he started it when you were courting, he will do it a hundred times when you are married. If he did it at all, he can do it again. Your lady calls you a fool just because you guys are having an argument? That is definitely a game-changer! Slip of tongue? Its from the inside - you don't speak what you never thought about. Mutual respect is critical to marriage and if you can't find it in your relationship - your married life might be a frustration at the end of the day.
Things that make for great marriages are noticed and nurtured from the courting stage. If a marriage is going to hit the rocks, the signs are obvious from the beginning.
You enjoy great conversation with your fiance? That's a great sign. The guy looks out for your interests and apologies for mistakes. Treasure that guy! She always want to help you out and is interested in your career and general well-being. That looks like your wife. A husband should be a comfort giver; a wife should inspire confidence and rest/homeliness. True love is concerned about the other person because when there is a giving, there will be a returning of the same which was given out.
I wish I had more time to continue... I hope this gives you a clue as to how to arrive at who should be your wife or husband. I expect your questions and we can discuss them. Godspeed!
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