In my last two blogs, I had a heart to heart talk with the men. It was a frank talk with nothing held back. I may go back to some things I left out but I do not want to keep the ladies waiting for too long. So, it is time for our kitchen talk. Guys may eavesdrop as the ladies did when I had a chat with them.
The subject, as a way of reminder, is on the matters of the heart. Incidentally, just yesterday, Prince Williams and the newest bride at Buckingham Palace, Kate signed the dotted lines to be man and wife. It was the wedding of the century! A record 2 Billion people watched it across the world on satellite TV. It has suddenly set a standard for how a wedding should be especially in the eyes of our ladies. I ran a comment on my facebook page yesterday pleading with our ladies not to squeeze the living daylight out of the guys by using Kate's wedding as a standard!
Ladies, talking seriously, I want us to examine the motivation behind the desire to be in a relationship. Satellite TV and ICT-driven technological means of communication has raised the hype for how relationships should be entered into and what guys are expected to behave. But I want to warn that most of the things we see on Hollywood movies and social tabloids of movie and music stars are completely make-believe and not truly a reflection of the reality. I want ladies to come to terms with the fact that we are first of all humans and must be human beings and also rationale behinds.
What are your standards for a relationship?
For the average lady, it can be arguably stated, even though debatable, that a relationship for her should be 100% focused on her needs and wants! This ought not so to be! A relationship is a two-way traffic. As a matter of fact, ladies, you must realize that you get the best out of every relationship on the basis of how much you are ready to give to it. It should be clear to you now that I had spent time educating our guys of their basic responsibilities of the guys towards you... so the question of me (a guy) being biased does not arise at all.
Let us look at a few preparatory work the ladies should engage in, in their quest to entering a value adding relationship.
Develop a Personal Self-Esteem
Girl, do you have a personal life? It is very easy to define your life by the relationship you have, but you must know that no relationship can give you an identity until you give your life a name! Do you have a personal identity on your own? Do you have a life besides a guy? For the guys, I asked them to have a purpose... my lady - do you have a reason for your life?
A good education is one area you need to fortify yourself with. Religiously, do you have your joy in God's presence? That is critically important. As great as a relationship may mean to you, God remains your all-in-all. Ladies who do not send need-signals around for their "love-tanks" to be fed will get better attention from "quality" guys than those who do.
A relationship should serve as a complimentary factor in your life not the main issue.
Have something a man needs
Every relationship you go into should be a place of contribution. What do you have to offer in every relationship? Forget about the emotional aspects... sex, curves and body appeals. You must not over-emphasize that above the qualities that address the issues of value in the relationship.
What really do men desire? Someone said its courtesy, respect and honour. This is very true. I want an interface from the ladies at this point and I want you to share with me what you really believe men want in a relationship.
In my next blog, we can address further issues that will help the ladies have a better handle on the matters of the heart.
The subject, as a way of reminder, is on the matters of the heart. Incidentally, just yesterday, Prince Williams and the newest bride at Buckingham Palace, Kate signed the dotted lines to be man and wife. It was the wedding of the century! A record 2 Billion people watched it across the world on satellite TV. It has suddenly set a standard for how a wedding should be especially in the eyes of our ladies. I ran a comment on my facebook page yesterday pleading with our ladies not to squeeze the living daylight out of the guys by using Kate's wedding as a standard!
Ladies, talking seriously, I want us to examine the motivation behind the desire to be in a relationship. Satellite TV and ICT-driven technological means of communication has raised the hype for how relationships should be entered into and what guys are expected to behave. But I want to warn that most of the things we see on Hollywood movies and social tabloids of movie and music stars are completely make-believe and not truly a reflection of the reality. I want ladies to come to terms with the fact that we are first of all humans and must be human beings and also rationale behinds.
What are your standards for a relationship?
For the average lady, it can be arguably stated, even though debatable, that a relationship for her should be 100% focused on her needs and wants! This ought not so to be! A relationship is a two-way traffic. As a matter of fact, ladies, you must realize that you get the best out of every relationship on the basis of how much you are ready to give to it. It should be clear to you now that I had spent time educating our guys of their basic responsibilities of the guys towards you... so the question of me (a guy) being biased does not arise at all.
Let us look at a few preparatory work the ladies should engage in, in their quest to entering a value adding relationship.
Develop a Personal Self-Esteem
Girl, do you have a personal life? It is very easy to define your life by the relationship you have, but you must know that no relationship can give you an identity until you give your life a name! Do you have a personal identity on your own? Do you have a life besides a guy? For the guys, I asked them to have a purpose... my lady - do you have a reason for your life?
A good education is one area you need to fortify yourself with. Religiously, do you have your joy in God's presence? That is critically important. As great as a relationship may mean to you, God remains your all-in-all. Ladies who do not send need-signals around for their "love-tanks" to be fed will get better attention from "quality" guys than those who do.
A relationship should serve as a complimentary factor in your life not the main issue.
Have something a man needs
Every relationship you go into should be a place of contribution. What do you have to offer in every relationship? Forget about the emotional aspects... sex, curves and body appeals. You must not over-emphasize that above the qualities that address the issues of value in the relationship.
What really do men desire? Someone said its courtesy, respect and honour. This is very true. I want an interface from the ladies at this point and I want you to share with me what you really believe men want in a relationship.
In my next blog, we can address further issues that will help the ladies have a better handle on the matters of the heart.
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